3 PILLARS Hai CONFIDENCE Ke – COMMUNICATION SKILLS KO Kise Aacha Banaye

February 28, 2018  Communication, Social Skills

Namaskaar doston,

aap apane jeevan mein kitana kar sakate hain aur aap apane jeevan mein paise kamaane ke lie kitane saksham hain, aur aap kitane achchhe tareeke se apane rishte ko chala sakate hain, aap apane jeevan ke har pahaloo mein kitana kshamata vikasit karana hai baat aur yahee aapaka aatmasammaan hai jisaka arth hai ki aap kitane aatmavishvaas aur vishvaas karate hain ki aapake paas kya hai aur aapakee upalabdhiyon aur upalabdhiyon ke lie vaastav mein aap vaastav mein kya sochate hain aur mahasoos karate hain. vaastav mein lekhak ka kahana hai ki aatmasammaan aatmasaat aur any pramukh muddon jaise niraasha aur andaravichament hinsa ke peechhe pratyaksh ya apratyaksh roop se sabase badee bhoomika nibhaata hai. isalie yah vaastav mein hamaare lie is vishay ko bahut achchhee tarah se aur theek se udaaharan samajhane ke lie mahatvapoorn hai,

eyar hostes le jaane ke dauraan sabhee yaatriyon ko nirdesh dete hue kahate hain ki aapaatakaal ke samay mein vishesh roop se aapaatakaal ke dauraan kahen ki kisee ko madad karane se pahale apana svayan ka okseejan mukhauta pahanana pahale kyonki yaatra yaatriyon ke samay kharaab hone par keval mukhauta pahanane ke lie keval 3 sekand aur isase koee phark nahin padata ki aap kitane phit aur maansapeshiyon mein hain agar aap doosaron kee madad karane kee koshish karate hain to pahale mar jaate hain aur doosaron kee sahaayata karane kee sambhaavana bhee kam kar dete hain aur yah nirdesh bhee maany hai jab aapake bachche ya aapake priyajan aap ke alaava baithe hain, yahaan tak ​​ki aisee sthiti mein buddhimaan nirnay hoga ki aap doosaron kee madad karane se pahale apane aap ko sabase pahale madad karen.

sankshep mein, yadi aap pahale apane aap ko madad nahin kar sakate hain to aap nishchit roop se doosaron kee madad karane mein saksham nahin honge, agar ham apane baare mein achchha nahin lagate hain, agar hamaare paas aatmavishvaas kee kamee hai to vah bada ya bada kuchh haasil nahin kar paega hamaaree zindagee mein aur na hee doosaron ko aise vyakti kee madad karane mein saksham bhee ho sakate hain, jinake paas koee aatmavishvaas nahin hai, phir bhee duniya aise vyakti par vishvaas karane se dar jaegee, isalie hamesha apane aatmasammaan ko banae rakhana chaahie, isalie aaj main teen aatm sammaan stambhon ko saajha karoonga un stambhon ka abhyaas karane se aap sahee aatmasammaan bana sakate hain, to chalo shuroo karen .......

No.1) sahajata se rahana

mainne kaee baar dekha hai, aamataur par kaam ke saamaany din ya ghar ke samay mein jaldee se gujarata hai ki saptaahaant kitanee tejee se ham nahin jaanate, lekin agar main shahar se baahar do-teen din ya ek din ke lie bhee jaata hoon, to mujhe lagata hai un dinon bahut lambe samay tak sunana lambe samay tak ubaoo nahin hai. lekin mujhe lagata hai jaise us din mainne itanee saaree cheejen kar lee hain jaise mere paas alag-alag jagahen theen jo sirph ek din mein bhee theen, jabaki usee din mujhe yah bhee nahin pata ki bahut samay beet gaya hai.

isake lie ham sabase adhik samay bitaane ke lie behosh tareeke se aam taur par ham logon ko is samay ke baare mein sochane kee bajae, any baaton ke baare mein sochane kee bajae aur hamaare mastishk ka upayog any cheejon ke baare mein sochane ke bajaay rahane ke bajaay vartamaan kshan ka aanand lete hue ham apane dimaag mein anaavashyak alag-alag cheejon ko sochate hain aur doosaron ko bekaar saamaan ke baare mein sochate hue poore samay ka upayog karate hain.

yah ek chhote star ke udaaharan mein samajhane deta hai: -

kabhee-kabhee kya hota hai jab ham kisee raaste par jaane ke bajaay kisee raaste par pahunchane ke baare mein sochate hain, to ham bee maarg tak pahunch jaate hain, kyonki hamaara dhyaan any baaton par rahata hai,

bade star ka udaaharan deta hai: -

bahut se log robot ke roop mein apana jeevan jeena shuroo karate hain, niyamit roop se ve is samay kabhee bhee nahin rahate hain, ve aise vyakti ban jaate hain jinake man hamesha kaheen aur rahate hain, isaka matalab hai ki jab ve ghar par rahate hain, ve kaaryaalay ke baare mein sochate hain, jab ve kaaryaalay mein rahate hain to ve sochate hain ki ve shaareerik roop se apane parivaar ke saath rahen, lekin maanasik roop se ve kaheen aur rahen, isalie ve gunavatta ke samay mein kharch karane mein viphal rahate hain aur is vajah se unaka vyaktigat vyaavasaayik jeevan khatta ho jaata hai aur yah badee samasya hai, kyonki aapane un logon ko dekha hoga jo jeevan ko jaanaboojhakar kharch nahin karate hain pal mein nahin rahana aam taur par jinake aatmavishvaas aur aatmasammaan kee kamee hotee hai.

jabaki jo log naee cheejen karate hain, ve log jo pal mein rahate hain aur jaanaboojhakar rahate hain, jinake aatmasammaan aur aatmavishvaas hamesha sheersh par rahata hai, aur ve achchhe rishte banaane mein saksham hote hain aur achchhee tarah se peshevar roop se vyaktigat roop se aur pahale se hee pooree zindagee ke saath apana jeevan jeete hain, isalie hamesha is pal mein rahane kee koshish karake aur jaan-boojhakar jeevan jeene kee koshish karake pahale stambh ka abhyaas karen.

No.2) sv-sveekrti

mujhe ab bhee yaad hai jab main ek kishor tha us samay main munhaase kee samasya ka saamana karana padata tha aur is munhaase kee samasya ke kaaran mujhe bhayaanak lag raha tha, itanee sharmindagee thee ki doosaron ke saath aamane-saamane baatacheet karane ke lie chehare ko nazarandaaz karate the, main nahin chaahata tha ki koee mujhe apana chehara dekh sake kyonki kisee kone mein mera dil main is tathy ko sveekaar nahin kar raha tha ki yah saamaany hai aur yah nishchit aayu ke baad bahut se logon ne mujhe salaah dee, lekin phir bhee main apane inakaar ke tahat rah raha tha, aur mainne alag-alag cheejon ko khaane ke lie istemaal kie jaane vaale vibhinn utpaadon kee koshish kee, taaki chidiyon ko gaayab ho jae, lekin abhee bhee sab kuchh karane kee koshish karane ke baad bhee kuchh nahin hua jo is asveekaar ke kaaran hua aur praakrtik samasya ko sveekaar nahin karane ke kaaran mainne apana aatmavishvaas kho diya aur mera aatmasammaan bahut kam ho gaya, main saamaajik roop se ajeeb vyakti aur antarmukhee vyakti ban gaya aur mujhe bahut kam aatmavishvaas aur is bevakooph nakaar ke kaaran mainne kaee avasar kho die.

isaka kaaran yah hai ki main aapako yah sab kah raha hoon taaki aap log apane aap ko jis tarah se maanate hain, bevakoof nahin maanen, prakrti ne aapako kis tarah paida kiya hai, praakrtik banen aur apane praakrtik svabhaav ko sveekaar karen log kisee kee oonchaee, tvacha ka rang, vajan nahin hai, lekin vyakti ka aatmavishvaas isalie apane aap ko jis tarah se sveekaar karata hai, use sveekaar karen aur vishvaas karo.

ab ek mahatvapoorn baat, yahaan main kuchh nahin samajhane ke lie khud ko sveekaar karane ke lie nahin kah raha hoon, nahin, main kah raha hoon ki aapake saamane do prakaar kee sthiti aa jaegee: -

pahalee sthiti, jisake baare mein aap uchit kaary karake kuchh bhee ya kuchh kar sakate hain, aap us cheez ko badal sakate hain.

doosaree sthiti, vah kuchh hai jisake baare mein aap kuchh bhee nahin kar sakate hain chaahe aap kitana mushkil koshish karen.

udaaharan ke lie, yadi aap adhik vajan vaale hain, to aap isake baare mein kya kar sakate hain, jaise ki uchit kaarravaee kar sakate hain, vyaayaam kar sakate hain aur isamen sudhaar kar sakate hain aur is samasya ko door kar sakate hain isalie aisee sthiti mein yah nahin kaha gaya hai ki main theek tarah se hoon hoon aur mujhe paravaah nahin hai ki any log kya kahate hain, yahaan aapako kaarravaee karanee chaahie aur isamen sudhaar karana chaahie.

lekin lagata hai ki aisee sthiti hai jahaan aapake paas ek kam oonchaee aanuvanshik roop se hai aur aap isake baare mein kuchh bhee nahin kar sakate hain isalie aisee sthiti mein ise sveekaar kar len ki haan, mujhe kam oonchaee hai aur is tathy ke baare mein pareshaan hone ke bajaay aage badhen aur prerit karen duniya jo cheej jo oonchaee se zyaada maayane rakhatee hai vah kaarravaee hotee hai aur vyakti kee soch hotee hai aur un kaaryon aur soch mein vaastav mein jeevan mein vyakti ko bada ya chhota banaata hai

No.3) Aatmanirbharata

jyaadaatar do prakaar ke log hain, pahale nishkriy prakaar ke log aur any aakraamak prakaar ke log.

udaaharan,

maan leejie ki ek aadamee hai jo bahut lambe samay se tikat kee kataar mein khada hai aur achaanak ek ladaka aata hai aur us tikat kee rekha ke beech mein aa jaata hai to aisee sthiti mein agar vah vyakti nishkriy prakaar hai to vah kuchh nahin kahenge, vah gussa mahasoos karega parantu usaka gussa andar rakhega

lekin agar vah vyakti aakraamak prakaar hai to yah sunishchit karane ke lie ki vyakti chillao aur durupayog kar sakata hai aur us ladake ko us rekha se baahar nikalane ke lie kah sakata hai aur vaapas ja sakate hain, mujhe pata hai ki yah sahee udaaharan nahin hai.

nishkriy log hain, jo kisee ko nahin kahate hain, chaahe kitanee der tak ve mil rahe hon, lekin agar koee unakee madad se poochhata hai to ve madad karana shuroo karate hain, kyonki ve abhee nahin kah sakate hain ve log nahin hain ve uchit bhojan nahin praapt karate hain, phir bhee ve isake baare mein shikaayat kie bina ise khaate hain, isake baare mein shikaayat karane mein sankoch karate hain. sankshep mein aap yah kah sakate hain ki nishkriy log hee hain, jo kaam karate hain jo doosaron ko karana chaahate hain.

jabaki aakraamak tarah ke log hain jo apanee ichchha ke anusaar kaam karate hain, aakraamak log hain, jo seedhe nahin kahate hain, nahin, aapakee sunana ya any vyakti ko samajhane ke bina aur agar unhen uchit bhojan nahin milata hai to ve vetar par chilla sakate hain aur bana sakate hain gandagee.

ab prashn uthate hain, aap kis tarah ka vyakti hona chaahie, chaahe aap ko nishkriy ya aakraamak hona chaahie, theek hai, aap unamen se kisee ek kee tarah nahin hona chaahie, kyonki yadi aap nishkriy rahen to log aap ka laabh utha lenge aur aap saksham nahin honge apanee ichchha ke mutaabik kaam karo aur yadi aap aakraamak rahen to log aapako kathor milenge aur aapako pasand nahin karenge isalie aapake lie sabase achchha prakaar mukhar arth rahana hai.

mukhar prakaar ya log agar ve uchit bhojan nahin praapt karate hain to ve us bhojan ko nahin khaayenge aur vetar par bhee chillaane kee bajaay ve vinamrata se ek sajjan kee tarah ise vetar badalane ke lie poochhenge. jisaka matalab chhota vyakti hai, vah ek aisa vyakti hai jo apanee ichchhaon ke mutaabik kaam karata hai, lekin asabhy na hone ke kaaran aapako aatm-sammaan aur aatmavishvaas badhaane ke lie bhee aapako ek buddhimaan mukhar vyakti banana chaahie jo achchhee tarah se cheejon ka nipataan karana jaanata hai.

yah gyaan mainne apane drshtikon se aur ek adbhut chhah stambh aatmasammaan kitaab se saajha kiya hai.

mainne is pustak se keval teen stambh saajha kie hain aur yadi aap is pustak ke teen aur shesh khambhe ko samajhana chaahate hain to ise khareed len. yadi aap is pustak ka samarthan nahin karate hain to main is pustak ke teen aur khambhe sheyaron ke maadhyam se neeche tippanee karate hain.

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